Carter is two weeks old today, and so far everything has gone remarkably well. There is a link in my last post to the blog I've set up for him through the hospital, and I post daily updates about his progress there. At the moment, he's breathing room air, gaining weight, almost ready to go off his IV, and tolerating feedings pretty well. Yesterday he weighed two pounds, four ounces, which is five ounces over his birth weight and half a pound above his lowest weight. All the nurses say he's doing remarkably well, and that makes me very happy, as you might imagine. :-)
I have to say I never even considered the possibility of having a preemie. It's funny that I spent all those years dreaming about having a baby, and I thought about all sorts of things that might go wrong. I thought about miscarriage, or having a child with some sort of disability, and how we would cope with that. But for some reason, it never crossed my mind that my baby would come early and spend the first weeks of his life in the hospital.
Ironically, I was talking to my sister about it days before it happened, as in, "Wow, can you imagine having to go home and leave your baby in the hospital?" But it didn't occur to me that it was a possibility until two nights before his birth when a neonatologist came to talk to me about what his prognosis would be if he were born at 29 weeks. And even then, it was hard to imagine.
But here we are. People keep saying things like, "You're so strong to be handling all of this so well", but I'm not sure I'm strong so much as accepting. I mean, what choice do I have? The infertility was like that too: every step of the way it was hard to imagine the next step, that I could actually go through with it, but then the time came and I did. It's weird that it would be so, so hard to just have a baby, and that so many things would go wrong along the way. It's horribly unfair, and I can't help but be resentful of it -- but it's the way things are, and I have no choice but to deal with it and move forward. ( A day in the life )