I always try to think about what I'm doing or not doing to cause her behaviors when she is upset or acting out. I guess that comes from my background as a SPED teacher and working with students in a self contained "behavior shaping" class. I learned so much from those kids. Even though they were much older the same principles still apply. Kids of all ages want to be loved and accepted!

Oh, and I know what you mean about parents complaining about things that really are just age appropriate exploration. It drives me nuts!