Homeschooling/unschooling preschool
Jan. 10th, 2010 08:59 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
Does that even make sense? I've gone back and forth about putting Carter in preschool, and every time I decide it's not time yet. For one thing, we have an AMAZING nanny, and I want to hang on to her as long as possible. This semester, I'm organizing my schedule so that I work two days a week (all day, 7-5) and then spend the other three days at home with Carter.
I'm a strong believer in unstructured play-based learning for little ones, so I'm not really even sure that there is a point here. Carter knows a lot already, and he's learned it all just from play. He can identify the entire alphabet and is starting to be able to tell me what letter a word starts with just by sound. He can count to 12. He can identify at least 10 different geometric shapes. He can identify many, different animals and can replicate the sounds they make. He knows all the standard (10 or so) colors. He loves books and drawing and coloring and sign language. He's just starting to get into imaginative play. Et cetera.
So that tells me that what we're already doing is working fine, and that I don't need to worry about changing it up or adding any structure. And that's the whole point of unschooling, that kids can learn everything they need to know just by playing, and that adults should watch for opportunities to build on children's natural curiosity rather than impose artificial structures and concepts on them. We go to Gymboree play and music classes every week, and Carter has a swimming lesson once a week. He gets lots of time to explore and play outside, and has plenty of toys and books to play with inside. I try to go out somewhere with him most days, so he gets lots of stimulation.
But then I look at fantastic blogs like No Time For Flashcards and I think about all the cool things I could do with Carter to enhance his learning. But then, he's learning just fine already. You know? I have no idea what to do. My instinct is to lean towards unschooling approaches, but there is something in my mind that keeps suggesting I start making it more formal, like doing a "Letter of the Week" kind of thing.
Wisdom/validation from other moms would be appreciated. :-)
I'm a strong believer in unstructured play-based learning for little ones, so I'm not really even sure that there is a point here. Carter knows a lot already, and he's learned it all just from play. He can identify the entire alphabet and is starting to be able to tell me what letter a word starts with just by sound. He can count to 12. He can identify at least 10 different geometric shapes. He can identify many, different animals and can replicate the sounds they make. He knows all the standard (10 or so) colors. He loves books and drawing and coloring and sign language. He's just starting to get into imaginative play. Et cetera.
So that tells me that what we're already doing is working fine, and that I don't need to worry about changing it up or adding any structure. And that's the whole point of unschooling, that kids can learn everything they need to know just by playing, and that adults should watch for opportunities to build on children's natural curiosity rather than impose artificial structures and concepts on them. We go to Gymboree play and music classes every week, and Carter has a swimming lesson once a week. He gets lots of time to explore and play outside, and has plenty of toys and books to play with inside. I try to go out somewhere with him most days, so he gets lots of stimulation.
But then I look at fantastic blogs like No Time For Flashcards and I think about all the cool things I could do with Carter to enhance his learning. But then, he's learning just fine already. You know? I have no idea what to do. My instinct is to lean towards unschooling approaches, but there is something in my mind that keeps suggesting I start making it more formal, like doing a "Letter of the Week" kind of thing.
Wisdom/validation from other moms would be appreciated. :-)
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Date: 2010-01-11 03:41 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-01-14 09:07 pm (UTC)I do feel like he's doing just fine the way things are now. Thank you for the validation! :-)
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Date: 2010-01-11 04:11 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-01-14 09:10 pm (UTC)But you know how it is -- I'm sometimes a little unsure about whether or not he should be "doing" more. :-P
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Date: 2010-01-11 05:16 am (UTC)I often worry about whether Liam's learning enough, specifically because the whole teaching small children thing doesn't come naturally for me. But that's a wonderful website, I've seen it before but had forgotten about it. It has great ideas for crafts that I should really try out on the weekends.
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Date: 2010-01-11 02:03 pm (UTC)Mike and I have toyed with the idea of continuing homeschooling (he REALLY wants it, I'm about 50/50), but I think we're going to send him to public school starting with kindergarten this fall, and a big part in our decision is the lure of the Kalamazoo Promise (free tuition to any MI college) :)
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Date: 2010-01-14 09:17 pm (UTC)I seriously doubt we'll go that route, though. I just don't see it happening, for a variety of reasons. But every now and then I read about the cool things homeschooling coops are doing around town and go, "oooh."
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Date: 2010-01-14 09:51 pm (UTC)http://thenaturalchildlearningcommunity.com/Site/About.html
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Date: 2010-01-11 03:16 pm (UTC)I want to put Emma in part-time ps just two or three mornings a week in the fall when she's 3.5 because I do think at that age she needs to start having some structure, practice with listening to other adults, interacting with children during her play, etc... the preschool we are most likely putting her in is a cooperative preschool meaning a parent is required to volunteer at least once a month (more volunteering = a reduction of tuition). I really like the concept of parent involvement. It makes me feel like if parents are volunteering in the classrooms everything is right out there in the open and I will know what Emma's daily activities etc ... through my involvement in her room and other rooms in the school.
HTH!
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Date: 2010-01-14 10:08 pm (UTC)http://www.boston.com/news/education/higher/articles/2009/08/30/pressure_cooker_kindergarten/?page=5t
My and my cognitive psych PhD think that kids need those social skills (and a chance to learn them at 3 or 4 yrs old) regardless of whether or not they are going to be homeschooled, they will eventually go into the world, and from the homeschooled adults I know, there is a sensitive period for unsupervised socialization skills and they have missed it.
Just my 2cents btw, I don't mean to sound snotty.
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Date: 2010-01-15 07:45 pm (UTC)Preschool is a fairly recent phenomenon, and so I'm guessing that traditionally kids would get lots of chances to interact unsupervised with other kids even while staying at home -- neighbors, cousins, siblings, and so on. But these days we live much more isolated lives, and I can see how that could be a problem.
And hey, that wasn't snotty at all! My PhD was not in education, and so I always like to hear from people who actually know more about this stuff than I do! :-)
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Date: 2010-01-15 07:45 pm (UTC)Preschool is a fairly recent phenomenon, and so I'm guessing that traditionally kids would get lots of chances to interact unsupervised with other kids even while staying at home -- neighbors, cousins, siblings, and so on. But these days we live much more isolated lives, and I can see how that could be a problem.
And hey, that wasn't snotty at all! My PhD was not in education, and so I always like to hear from people who actually know more about this stuff than I do! :-)
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Date: 2010-01-15 03:30 pm (UTC)As far as preschool, for my older daughter, I went with a play-based preschool that's just an hour and a half, two days a week. She absolutely LOVED it, and I think it was good for her. There's a good chance I'll put R in the same program next year (she has a late birthday, so she'll still be 3).
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Date: 2010-01-15 07:49 pm (UTC)That's exactly the sort of thing I would be interested in for Carter in another year or so. I want him to have a chance to play with other kids in a rich setting, and just a few times a week for short bursts. I'm not looking for day care -- I really want to make sure that this will be something that enhances his learning.
Wow, was she only 18mo then? She seemed so much older than that at the time, heh.
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Date: 2010-01-18 04:21 pm (UTC)And really, what does it matter if they know their ABCs and colors by age 2 or 3 or 4? That stuff isn't hard. It's not like they have to learn it by age two or they'll never learn it at all OMGWTFBBQ!!!!! What matters more is their interest: are they interested in coloring? or playing with blocks? or singing songs? Sam took a long time sorting out his colors, but by god that kid could name every kind of construction vehicle by the time he was 18 months old. When I realized that, I didn't worry so much about academic things like ABCs and 123s. I knew he'd pick up on that at his own pace, and he did.
If you fret about these things, just remember: the country with the highest literacy rate in the world is Finland, and they don't teach kids to read until age 7.
All that said, Sam of course is in daycare/preschool because I have to work. He really enjoys it, loves his teacher, his fellow students. Over Christmas holiday he would wake up every morning and ask, "Go to school?" I think preschool is fine so long as it's not overly-academic in orientation, nor just parking them in front of the TV. They have lots of activities at Sam's school, but it's not highly structured or enforced.
So my opinion is: whether you homeschool or preschool ultimately matters far less than the attitude you take to it. Emphasis on play and discovery rather than academics and "education."*
(You already know all this. I'm just trying to reinforce you! :D)
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*Ask me sometime if interested, and I'll tell you about a very interesting study on preschool and parenting.
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Date: 2010-01-18 04:30 pm (UTC)So you see? Go with the kid's interest, not your idea of what you think they ought to know!
(I'm still hoping he'll get "Caterpillar yellow" before our family reunion next summer, though, or I'll have some explaining to do to my cousin....)